This Month We Continue Our Focus on the Importance of Self-Gratitude
This article is the second of a five-week series on self-gratitude.
Week 2 – What Others Think
In the 2nd week of our November Self-Gratitude Challenge, we will consider how you are seen by others and draw connections to what that means about your unique gifts, value, and purpose in this life.
What Do You Get Complimented About? What Does That Say About Who You Are?
When we consider the things that others frequently compliment us about, how can we dive deeper into what that says about our strengths and our values as a person?
By acknowledging what we get complimented about, we can begin to better understand who we are as a person.
So let’s think this through…
Every compliment you receive, can be traced back to a core value that you have.
Take some time to ask yourself, exactly what that compliment really says about who you are, and show yourself some love today!
When we look at our strengths from the viewpoint of the individual who knows us best, we obtain a unique perspective.
Consider that person.
That individual has a one-of-a-kind connection with you that no one else shares.
You give this person the confidence and security of knowledge, they may even tease with you about; and you share intimate discussions that are out of bounds for everyone else in your life.
This person has seen your lowest and brightest days, as well as the most beautiful moments in your life.
What strengths might you have that this person sees in you?
What qualities do they admire about you?
Reflecting on their response will also allow you to see yourself through another’s eyes.
What Would The Person Who Knows You Best, Say Are Your Top 3 Qualities?
What Would Your Family
Say Your Strengths Are?
Give this process a try:
Close your eyes.
Take a breath.
Don’t rush the answer.
This is meant to be a reflection.
Re-shape this question
from the mindset of
family you don’t often see,
not necessarily immediate
or current family.
Maybe it’s a family reunion,
a cousin you were close to
when you were a child,
maybe it’s your extended
Maybe you recall a
favorite memory and
reflect on what went well that day.
Asking this question can bring up feelings that aren’t pleasant, but allow yourself time and space to process through these emotions before deciding whether this question seems appropriate in your life right now.
For some of us, this question can trigger harsh or sad emotions, dependent on various family dynamics and life circumstances.
For others, it may seem as though the questions are becoming somewhat redundant. Gratitude is about the more you practice it, the easier it becomes to find reasons for being grateful.
I used to think my personal value came from the ability to host people in our home.
But I’m terrible at it – Like Really Bad;
…nothing about it comes naturally, and it gives off an anxiety-filled vibe for me,
which has made guests uncomfortable before they even had the chance to get too comfortable!
Finally, I realized something:
My strength isn’t being able to organize a party or keep things running smoothly when there are lots going on…
But, I Do Have Value!
I’m a people-person.
I love connecting and growing with others,
so my strength is in communication!
It’s what brings value to groups as well – making sure that every single person feels welcomed when we do get together.
What do your friends admire in you?
What do you get asked to help with?
How Do Your Co-workers
Depend on You?
We all spend the majority of our day at work, and it’s easy to take for granted how much we do.
When you make a conscious effort to be mindful of the people around you, your self-gratitude will undoubtedly increase!
Feeling like your co-workers are too dependent on you? Or maybe they don’t appreciate the value that you have to offer?
I know this is a feeling that many of us have felt at some point in our careers. However, it’s important to recognize how much we depend on them, too.
The next time a co-worker relies heavily on you, remind yourself of how much value they also give back.
Thinking about what makes you special and unique among other people in your workplace, can put things into perspective and help increase your self-gratitude.